Applying Mel Robbins’ 'Let Them' Theory to Menopause and Your Sex Life

And read her book

Mel Robbins’ 'Let Them' theory is simple but powerful: Let people be who they are. Let them think what they think. Let them do what they do. Your job? Focus on your own damn life. And she adds “Let Me” in there to start empowering ourselves to not just sit down on our laurels and accept everyone else’s “letting them”.

So what happens when we apply this to menopause, midlife and sex?

For most of our lives, we’ve been trained to seek approval—to be ‘good girls,’ to defer our desires, to follow the script handed to us by culture, family, or outdated medical advice. We have also been taught to defer to experts, and experts are good to have (otherwise I would be out of a job) but not all doctors know about hormones, female sexuality or even “believe” perimenopause is real. When it comes to menopause and our sex lives, the pressure is even worse. Society says, Menopause means the end of feeling sexy. You should just accept low libido. Hormones are dangerous.

You know what? Let them

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